#05 Valentine's Day? No problem: I love myself!
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Hello Dubeliane!
I'm Sara, thank you for those of you who read the fourth article of the new Dubeliè Blog.
After a series of articles about colors, combinations and tips regarding Dubeliè bags and the most interesting (and fastest) way to wear them, we continue with today's new article, Friday 17 February.
It's just been Valentine's week, and right on those days when the shops are painted red, filling up with little hearts and boxes of chocolate, it can happen to feel inspired, serene and joyful but it can also happen to experience discouragement or nostalgia. It's in these moments that I asked myself: but, maybe, isn't it that society hasn't taught us very well how to love ourselves and enjoy our own company? 🌹
I reflected on the fact that, of all the things we are taught in school since we are little, no one has ever held a course on self-esteem and strength of spirit, which to me seems to be, instead, a truly necessary condition for having healthy relationships and living in genuine environments, without filling ourselves with useless and evanescent relationships.
My goal, as you will understand, is not to tell you the recipe for happiness, but only to try to share with you a reflection that, over the years, has allowed me to build a solid security, from friend to friend.
Loving ourselves does not mean, as is commonly said, “looking good”. It means having a great consideration for our own well-being and happiness, taking care of our needs and not sacrificing our desires to please others.
How much time do we spend worrying about how we will be perceived from the outside, without paying the slightest attention to our emotions and instincts? Which, after all, is the only thing we have that makes us different from each other and makes us feel alive?
And how many times, for every YES said under “obligation” and for every choice we didn’t want to make but were forced to, have we felt guilty and remorseful?
Here: love for ourselves is not simply “seeing ourselves well”, because it is not just a feeling of well-being, but it is an action, a life choice.
It means that every day the only approval we have to seek, the only support we have to need is our own. And the only person we have to convince of our goodness is ourselves, because it is with ourselves that we will deal every day of our lives.
TIP! I use a very powerful tool: when I meet someone for the first time, I no longer ask myself “will they like me? What impression will I make? Will I say the right things?” but, rather, “Do I like this person? Is he or she making my soul serene? Am I comfortable in this conversation?”. It’s difficult at first, but as I was telling you, loving ourselves is a concrete action and no one has ever taught us that. This is a way I have to claim my feelings and sensations, when insecurities prevail.
But you will ask me: did fashion play a role for you?
My answer is of course.
Dubeliè is the synthesis of a path of creativity and self-acceptance. When I realized that I was different from others, because I liked to wear eccentric clothes and bright colors and, above all, I loved the idea of expressing my personality while others hid it under their black clothes, I realized that I would have done myself a disservice by not doing it.
Regardless of other people's sterile criticisms. Because I've learned that the only person I have to try to make happy every day of my life, even with a simple look, is me. ✨
But my question to you is: what do you think? Do you love yourself and/or have you always loved yourself? What are your tips for other Dubelians? 🫱🏻🫲🏼🧡
PS Would you like to start dressing more colorfully but can't find the right clothes around?
I remind you that every Tuesday evening, at 9:30 pm, you will find a LIVE on INSTAGRAM (@__dubeliè__) in which I bring you items in full Dubeliè style at super accessible prices, for all tastes and… truly unmissable!
With love,
Yours, Sara
I'm Sara, thank you for those of you who read the fourth article of the new Dubeliè Blog.
After a series of articles about colors, combinations and tips regarding Dubeliè bags and the most interesting (and fastest) way to wear them, we continue with today's new article, Friday 17 February.
It's just been Valentine's week, and right on those days when the shops are painted red, filling up with little hearts and boxes of chocolate, it can happen to feel inspired, serene and joyful but it can also happen to experience discouragement or nostalgia. It's in these moments that I asked myself: but, maybe, isn't it that society hasn't taught us very well how to love ourselves and enjoy our own company? 🌹
I reflected on the fact that, of all the things we are taught in school since we are little, no one has ever held a course on self-esteem and strength of spirit, which to me seems to be, instead, a truly necessary condition for having healthy relationships and living in genuine environments, without filling ourselves with useless and evanescent relationships.
My goal, as you will understand, is not to tell you the recipe for happiness, but only to try to share with you a reflection that, over the years, has allowed me to build a solid security, from friend to friend.
Loving ourselves does not mean, as is commonly said, “looking good”. It means having a great consideration for our own well-being and happiness, taking care of our needs and not sacrificing our desires to please others.
How much time do we spend worrying about how we will be perceived from the outside, without paying the slightest attention to our emotions and instincts? Which, after all, is the only thing we have that makes us different from each other and makes us feel alive?
And how many times, for every YES said under “obligation” and for every choice we didn’t want to make but were forced to, have we felt guilty and remorseful?
Here: love for ourselves is not simply “seeing ourselves well”, because it is not just a feeling of well-being, but it is an action, a life choice.
It means that every day the only approval we have to seek, the only support we have to need is our own. And the only person we have to convince of our goodness is ourselves, because it is with ourselves that we will deal every day of our lives.
TIP! I use a very powerful tool: when I meet someone for the first time, I no longer ask myself “will they like me? What impression will I make? Will I say the right things?” but, rather, “Do I like this person? Is he or she making my soul serene? Am I comfortable in this conversation?”. It’s difficult at first, but as I was telling you, loving ourselves is a concrete action and no one has ever taught us that. This is a way I have to claim my feelings and sensations, when insecurities prevail.
But you will ask me: did fashion play a role for you?
My answer is of course.
Dubeliè is the synthesis of a path of creativity and self-acceptance. When I realized that I was different from others, because I liked to wear eccentric clothes and bright colors and, above all, I loved the idea of expressing my personality while others hid it under their black clothes, I realized that I would have done myself a disservice by not doing it.
Regardless of other people's sterile criticisms. Because I've learned that the only person I have to try to make happy every day of my life, even with a simple look, is me. ✨
But my question to you is: what do you think? Do you love yourself and/or have you always loved yourself? What are your tips for other Dubelians? 🫱🏻🫲🏼🧡
PS Would you like to start dressing more colorfully but can't find the right clothes around?
I remind you that every Tuesday evening, at 9:30 pm, you will find a LIVE on INSTAGRAM (@__dubeliè__) in which I bring you items in full Dubeliè style at super accessible prices, for all tastes and… truly unmissable!
With love,
Yours, Sara
Comments
Veronica said:
Buonasera a tutte le dubeliane
Sara affronta sempre temi particolari e io sono felice di rispondere a questo blog sempre ….
Amare se stessi ….bel tema ….un po’ controverso per molti sensi ….il dono dell’amore ….l’idea di custodire una alta autostima spesso è un percorso introspettivo molto complicato …..spesso non vediamo il bello che ci contraddistingue come esseri umani …tutti diversi gli uni dagli altri …..siamo spesso legati a stereotipi preconfezionati ed emuliamo ciò…..non è così purtroppo….amare è una condizione dell’anima …..un elemento che riesce con la sua potenza a renderci meravigliosamente invincibili ….ma per capire questo a volte il viaggio che si intraprende è lungo e a tratti doloroso…..è amore anche accettare che nel percorso della vita tutto ha un senso ……gioie dolori paure felicità….abbiamo il dovere morale di rispettare tutte le luci e tutte le ombre della nostra esistenza e farlo con affetto e a volte anche compassione verso noi stessi …..amarsi vuol dire anche perdonarsi in determinati momenti ….amarsi vuol dire ….seguire l’istinto …..amarsi a volte è semplicemente farmarsi e guardarsi dentro ……amarsi è anche farsi un regalo ….decidere di darsi un attenzione …..
Amare è meravigliosamente difficile …..
I colori aiutano …..le energie sono colorate ……io adoro Sara che rappresenta esattamente l’arcobaleno ♥️
In questa vita un po’ grigia…. ma esattamente bellissima così…..
February 20, 2023
Elda said:
Ciao a tutte. Cara Saretta sono pienamente d’accordo con te. Amare se stessi è un processo evolutivo e molto conta anche l’ambiente in cui vivi e l’educazione che ricevi. Ma ad un certo punto della vita è una scelta. Ti fai pecora o esprimi te stessa al massimo del tuo essere, senza curarti troppo di ciò che pensano gli altri. Questo è amare se stessi, prendersi cura di sé prima di ogni altra cosa. Solo così possiamo vivere pienamente la vita in ogni sua sfumatura
Se poi queste sfumature le mettiamo anche nella moda, attraverso i colori e degli accessori particolari…. Diventa ancora più espressivo esserci! Grazie Sara per le tue creazioni uniche, come te. Un abbraccio ❤️
February 19, 2023
Luigia said:
Ciao Sara, anch’io avevo paura di indossare capi colorati… Al massimo indossavo il blu qualche volta ma sempre beige, nero, bianco, insomma colori sempre neutri. Grazie a te, ho capito e ho avuto il coraggio di scoprire il mio volermi bene indossando i colori cosa che ritenevo fosse più consono per una ragazzina. E ti dirò che mi piace uscire con addosso fucsia, verde, lilla, turchese ecc perché mi fa star bene davvero.
Un abbraccio, tua dubeliana ❤️
February 19, 2023
Maria Angela said:
Ciao a tutte ! Hai veramente ragione. Amare e rispettare se stessi è importante. Ogni tanto qualche momento no può capire a tutti perché nessuno è perfetto soprattutto quando si parla di noi stessi e delle nostre emozioni . Accertarsi è un cammino che arriva con il tempo . L’importante è sentire sempre il bisogno di migliorare pian piano senza farsi sminuire dalle opinioni o critiche altrui . San Valentino può essere anche un momento di riflessione non solo per chi è in coppia, ma anche per chi è single . È importante capire appunto quello che davvero si desidera .Guardare anche la felicità altrui può essere un bene per comprendere se a noi manca o no qualcosa . Sicuramente io penso che non ha senso farsi un viaggio di piacere a S Valentino per poi prendersi in giro andando proprio a non rispettarsi . Preferirei anche un cavolfiore al posto delle rose 😂 ma deve essere spontaneo come gesto e ci deve essere rispetto . È qualcosa che oggi manca parecchio perché la vera vita non è solo fare viaggi oppure ricevere regali dal fidanzato ( vedo tanta gente fare così) . Sarei ipocrita se non dicessi che a volte fa piacere ricevere queste attenzioni ma inutile dire che mettere al centro una persona può anche deluderti perché non si sa mai cosa può succedere con il tempo ….Quindi fai bene a chiederti se stai bene e se la persona con cui parli ti fa sentire a tuo agio ( amica o fidanzato che sia e’ un ragionamento che è sempre valido) . Se poi qualcuno ti ferisce pesantemente fregatene perché la vita è una e sinceramente si può stare bene anche da soli . Molte ragazze abbassano la propria autostima proprio perché vengono lasciate dal ragazzo . Non voglio fare l’esperta di turno, però non vale la pena farsi sminuire . È un principio di vita che a prescindere dallo stare in coppia è fondamentale per stare bene e poi come dicevi i colori sono allegria ed è giusto valorizzarsi anche nei momenti più difficili con cose frivole . A volte anche essere frivoli aiuta a mandare via le negatività quindi fatevi belle anche quando soffrite
February 19, 2023
Arianna said:
Ho imparato tardi ad amare me stessa e ne ho sono felice I colori mi riempiono di gioia e non mi importa di essere inappropriata come pensavo un po di tempo fa A presto il mio primo acquisto Dubelie 🥰 Ciao Sara, da una quasi 63enne 🤗
February 19, 2023